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Posted: Oct 01, 2008 - 11:29 PM
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Cigaro
Joined: May 19, 2005
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Location: Northern Virginia
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I'm exactly the same way. This is my second year of college. Last year and this year as soon as classes start, when classes end I just want to be alone in my room. Hanging out with people or any type of socialization is not desirable. It's like extra work for me to socialize and freaks me out.
What gets me to let out any anger/stress is playing soccer. I was on a team for awhile and running and kicking the shit out of the ball is fun and feels great. However, I had to quit because the team I was on was run by tyrants I swear. I'm still on an intramural soccer team though.
Also playing music helps. I play accordion and guitar and keyboards. Sometimes I'm so stressed or just... weird in my head that I don't even want to play music. I can't get myself to do anything. Anything except maybe... eat/surf the web endlessly/buy stuff on Ebay(which is a bad habit that needs to stop, I'm running out of money, really!). But if I get past my not being able to do anything and start playing music, I find I don't want to put the instrument down.
I will also add that I tell my boyfriend everything. EVERYTHING. So having ONE close person to talk to helps.
Additionally, I come to this website to talk about things or just absorb myself in something I like, SOAD. Not all the time but sometimes it helps (and hopefully this is helping you).
I'm not sure this type of feeling of stress from school can be truly stopped--- or, rather, that it SHOULD be stopped. Honestly, I think people like us have our priorities straight. I'm not kidding. I would explain but... I can't figure out how to explain....... um........ I'll end this here. |
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Posted: Oct 02, 2008 - 12:58 AM
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Ego Brain
Joined: Jun 22, 2008
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Vent to someone or write it all down(you might have talent and never knew), play an instrument (one of my roommates is even now playing through all of avenged sevenfold's songs), even if you suck, the beer idea isn't bad as long as you stop at 1 bottle( if it works for you, it's better than having anxiety attacks) You can even vent to us. Go in the school thread and just let er rip.
I don't get anxiety anymore, but i was a suicidal 5th grader. Not good. Then one day some girls tried to beat me up and i beat them up. Great stress relief. After that i became the apathetic person you all love  Not that i'm telling you to just pick someone and whale on them, but a kickboxing class or a martial arts thing can help. I hope we're somehow helpful to you. |
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Posted: Oct 02, 2008 - 08:42 PM
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Cigaro
Joined: May 19, 2005
Posts: 2863
Location: Northern Virginia
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^Yeah I was in martial arts too. Then when I achieved my black belt, I quit LOL.
But um, WOW you beat the girls up instead? That's so cool, you're my hero... sorry Daron, you're number 2 now  |
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Posted: Oct 13, 2008 - 06:31 PM
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Cigaro
Joined: Feb 03, 2005
Posts: 2928
Location: A peephole in time and space.
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SystemofaDownisHot wrote:
I'm exactly the same way. This is my second year of college. Last year and this year as soon as classes start, when classes end I just want to be alone in my room. Hanging out with people or any type of socialization is not desirable. It's like extra work for me to socialize and freaks me out.
What gets me to let out any anger/stress is playing soccer. I was on a team for awhile and running and kicking the shit out of the ball is fun and feels great. However, I had to quit because the team I was on was run by tyrants I swear. I'm still on an intramural soccer team though.
Also playing music helps. I play accordion and guitar and keyboards. Sometimes I'm so stressed or just... weird in my head that I don't even want to play music. I can't get myself to do anything. Anything except maybe... eat/surf the web endlessly/buy stuff on Ebay(which is a bad habit that needs to stop, I'm running out of money, really!). But if I get past my not being able to do anything and start playing music, I find I don't want to put the instrument down.
I will also add that I tell my boyfriend everything. EVERYTHING. So having ONE close person to talk to helps.
Additionally, I come to this website to talk about things or just absorb myself in something I like, SOAD. Not all the time but sometimes it helps (and hopefully this is helping you).
I'm not sure this type of feeling of stress from school can be truly stopped--- or, rather, that it SHOULD be stopped. Honestly, I think people like us have our priorities straight. I'm not kidding. I would explain but... I can't figure out how to explain....... um........ I'll end this here.
Please elaborate. |
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Posted: Oct 14, 2008 - 02:18 AM
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Member
Joined: Oct 12, 2006
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Location: The Island
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| Wank more, it relaxes you. |
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Posted: Oct 14, 2008 - 09:11 PM
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ddevil
Joined: Feb 03, 2005
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Location: Norway
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Got the same problem here. Been having (social) anxiety problems since I was like 12 or something.
When I went to high school, I always skipped class when we had presentations and stuff, because it was just impossible for me to go through, standing there in front of everyone... I also got really shitty grades in some subjects because I never raised my hand, even though I knew the answer Picking up the phone when I don't know who it is is also scary, as is opening the door when it rings.
Worst of all is socializing with people I don't know though. Like, asking around for jobs and stuff. I really need a job atm, so it's fucking annoying... last time I asked someone if they had any jobs available I had to drink 5 coffee's and smoke 5 cigs before going in lol.
Anyway though, I hope you get some good advice, as I could really benefit from reading it too |
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Posted: Oct 14, 2008 - 09:32 PM
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Needle
Joined: Oct 04, 2007
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Location: Europe for fucking 12 months
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When I went to high school, I always skipped class when we had presentations and stuff, because it was just impossible for me to go through, standing there in front of everyone... I also got really shitty grades in some subjects because I never raised my hand, even though I knew the answer. Picking up the phone when I don't know who it is is also scary, as is opening the door when it rings.
I had exactly same thing.
I also used to freak out 'cause I was afraid that we would have something like speaking out loud in class. I hated when teacher made us all answer. Panic arose when people around me answered on their turns and when it was mine I usually said just something quickly as possible. After speaking I started to calm down. Slowly.
Weird, but now days I don't have any type of problems speaking in front of class 
I'm just little shy, but like when I was in London I wasn't that afraid of asking stuff from people (though I mumbled so much that they hardly understood anything  )
Like, I used to freak out totally whenever I had to talk someone, like when I had to ask something from a librarian I started to shake all over etc. and I had go away and sit down and wait it all to comeback to normal and try again. It easily did take like 20 minutes to just pick up one dvd.
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Posted: Oct 14, 2008 - 09:58 PM
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Peephole
Joined: Dec 12, 2006
Posts: 1778
Location: Oregon, where it rains 85% of the year.
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I have an anxiety disorder, so I definitely feel ya.
That's why I'm not even in public school anymore, I do sooooo so so so so bad around people, I mean damn. Especially at assemblies and shit, I'd like freak out from all the people in one big room and all that. Usually for me I try to take deep breathes and turn on some real chill music. Or I write, just whatever I'm feeling I put it into something complex and abstract. Or draw, or just play my bass. ANYTHING that takes your mind of shit and relaxes you. |
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Posted: Oct 15, 2008 - 01:07 AM
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Joined: Nov 07, 2007
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| I would try to come up with excuses and plead with teachers to let me do a paper instead of a presentation back in high school. One time in college there was noway around making the presentation...so i drank a lot an hour before class, got drunk and did the presentation. DEF. NOT ADVISING that for anyone. I did great on the presentation, but I kept making jokes and laughing, I don't think anyone suspected I was drunk tho...I got an A |
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Posted: Oct 15, 2008 - 04:34 AM
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Ego Brain
Joined: Jun 22, 2008
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SystemofaDownisHot wrote:
^Yeah I was in martial arts too. Then when I achieved my black belt, I quit LOL.
But um, WOW you beat the girls up instead? That's so cool, you're my hero... sorry Daron, you're number 2 now
Yeah, i quit after awhile too. That involves a long story with breaking someones ribs... so let's not go there.
Presentations are the bane of my existence. I don't like them. Everyone says i do great and that i really know how to talk to groups. But i don't feel like it. I shake and i sweat, but i seem to have mastered the art of bullshit completely now, because no one can tell.
I had to learn because my parents are always telling me to be more assertive, but at the same time they tell me not to be confrontational. Annoying. I would rather not deal with large groups of people. But at least now i can deal with people at all instead of disappearing when someone wants to talk to me. |
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They Like Salad , They'r Trying to Kill us .. Everybody Try to Kill Us !!
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